How to Beat Your Low-Self Esteem Problem in 5 Easy Steps

The self-help book industry is booming, with great numbers of people buying books that promise to solve all their problems. However, many of these books are completely ineffective. For example, not only is the advice in How to Beat Your Low-Self Esteem Problem in 5 Easy Steps useless, but it’s also dangerous.

The author starts off by suggesting the following two thought experiments:

Think of someone close to you and then think of a friend of theirs who doesn’t know them well and has never met them. Then imagine how this person would describe your loved one. This perfectly illustrates how you’re wrong about yourself and your low self esteem is way out of whack because most people actually like you more than you know (or something).

Next, think about a celebrity whose name begins with the same letter as yours. Then think about what it feels like to be them. This will show you that even celebrities have problems too, so why should you be any different?

If you find these exercises helpful then this book probably isn’t for you. But if you find them ridiculous then read on…

This week, we’re looking at how to beat your low-self esteem problem in five steps.

1. Recognise that the problem exists.

2. Understand where it comes from.

3. Accept the problem and make a choice to change it.

4. Work on changing your negative thoughts about yourself and replace them with positive ones.

5. Ask for support, if you need it, and reward yourself for changes made and successes achieved.

1. Identify the source of your low self-esteem.

2. Make a list of your positive qualities and accomplishments.

3. Focus on your abilities and strengths to overcome feelings of inferiority.

4. Give yourself credit for the things you do well, no matter how small they may seem.

5. Take care of yourself by eating healthy, getting enough sleep and exercise, and avoiding alcohol and drugs.

You might think our low self-esteem is a problem with ourselves, that it’s our fault, that we’re just not good enough.

You may feel so bad about yourself that you can’t even imagine thinking differently. And if you do think differently, then you will have to act differently. This is scary…

But what if I told you that your low self-esteem is not your fault? How could it be? You never asked for it. It was given to you. You were given a belief system that doesn’t work.

Your thoughts and beliefs are like the operating system of a computer which runs all the software programs on it. The reason why you feel so bad about yourself, is because of the way you are thinking and believing about yourself. If you change your thoughts and beliefs about yourself, then everything will change in your life.

Your real problem isn’t with yourself but with your wrong thinking and beliefs about yourself. If this is true then all you have to do is change your way of thinking and believing and everything in your life will change as a result.

If you want to get more done in your day, without feeling like you are killing yourself in the process, take a look at these 5 easy techniques.

1. Stop over-estimating how much you can do.

Be very realistic about what you can achieve each day. Write down all the things you have to do and make a clear time estimate for each. When you have finished, add up all the time estimates and see if it fits into a working day. If not, don’t panic! Go back through your list and be realistic about what you can achieve and what might have to wait until tomorrow. Be strict with yourself here, if something is going to take you longer than 1 hour don’t try and squeeze it in today unless it’s absolutely essential.

2. Get up early.

The most productive times of the day are usually first thing in the morning when your energy levels are high and again towards late afternoon when that post-lunch lull wears off. Get into the habit of getting up earlier than normal and start your most important tasks as soon as possible while your energy levels are high.

The problem: Low self-esteem. The symptom: Excessive modesty. The solution: Less modesty.

Excessive modesty is a problem because it prevents you from doing things that would make your life better. This is particularly true if you are an entrepreneur, but it also applies in other areas of life.

Let’s focus on the entrepreneurial case, where we can be specific about these things.

Startups are different from established companies in that they’re trying to do something new and hard, which means there’s a lot of uncertainty about whether their idea will work and what form it will take when it does work. Given the high degree of uncertainty, a startup has to be prepared to change direction quickly as its understanding of the world evolves. If a startup is lucky enough to have founders who are great at guessing what will work, they can often succeed by persevering in that direction through a series of changes that gradually reveal its final form. But most startups don’t have founders who are unusually good at guessing what will work; most get it wrong several times before stumbling onto something that does work. Hence the need for constant change in direction.

How cool is it that people have been playing tennis for hundreds of years, and yet there are still new ways to beat them? I had one of my favorite matches ever a few weeks ago, against a guy who had a simple but effective strategy: he lobbed almost every shot.

Lobbing is one of those things that works better in practice than you’d think. You’d think the lob would be easy to hit, right? But somehow it’s not. Maybe because it goes so high and deep, you can’t get under it fast enough. Maybe because it’s such an aggressive shot, it puts pressure on you to get to the ball and hit it as hard as you can. Or maybe because you’re used to having more time before your opponent hits the ball back to you, so you can’t really believe the ball will stay in play long enough to reach over your head.

My usual strategy is serve-and-volley: charge the net after hitting my first serve and try to finish off the point with a volley or two. (Or three.) It’s not a particularly advanced tactic: most of my opponents know what I’m going to do; they’re just not good enough to stop me from doing it. But this guy just kept

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